What is love?

What is love?

Love is bliss, but then you keep hearing that there can be no love without pain. But it is also said that when you love so much that it hurts to the maximum, and if you can still love post that then it hurts no more,… then what you got is pure love.
There is no need to own or possess; there is no need for a certain standard definition of love to be met. You are happy in the knowledge that you can love.

We keep saying, no one loves us completely, but then are we capable of loving completely… and I would go to the extent of saying that majority of us do not have the capability to accept true love. If you have been lucky enough to have been loved with total acceptance, you invariably question that love… you try to find the agenda behind that love. If you cannot imagine any agenda at that time, you simply think, that there is something which will surface up one day. The problem of this doubt is that it gets reflected in your behavior, the person giving love, continues, but our negative thoughts hamper the flow of loving energy.

Now, this is the situation, when we are receiving love, now wonder, how tough it is for us to love someone truly. For us love becomes possessing someone; it is having the person behave in a certain way; it is the person reciprocating our love in the way we want. The moment there is a deviation, we withdraw our love… it is all conditional. We love our child, because he behaves the way we think is proper, will do anything that I want done, will speak to the people I want him to, not have relationship with people who I do not like, …. The same child goes and does something which goes against my wishes and that is the end of any love that I feel for this child.

Love is acceptance of as is. How many of us have it in us to be able to do that.

… Why am I even writing this, for people who understand this, do not need it and the rest will not understand it in any case. Of the people who understand also, very few can go and actually live this.

I am happy that I accept myself and every single person around me for what they are. I have a right to make a choice, as to how much interaction I will have with whom, but I accept them as is.

I thank the universal source for giving me this acceptance.

NOTE:

There is a friend who heard the piece above and had strong views on the example of parent and child given. First of all, I think, we all have a different view and thats what is reqd as well to bring in different perspectives. At the same time, none of what is written is a rule. It is simply a statement on certain probable situations. The main reason for taking that example was because parent-child is known to be the most unconditional love and still a lot of times, it does not hold true.

The main thing I want to convey in the piece above is that love is acceptance of as is.